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By Mayo Clinic staff

If you're experiencing difficulty reaching orgasm, it can be frustrating for you and your partner. Plus, concentrating on climax can make the problem worse.

Try to remember that orgasm has nothing to do with the "right" sexual techniques or bedroom acrobatics. There is no specific method or magic trick to make someone have an orgasm. And most couples aren't experiencing the headboard-banging, van-rocking intercourse that appears on TV and in the movies. So reframe your expectations. Focus on mutual pleasure, instead of orgasm. You may find that a sustained pleasure plateau is just as satisfying as real climax.

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Dec. 29, 2007

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