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  • June 26, 2009

    Blog: Averting a meltdown

    By Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

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If the stress in your life is more than you can cope with, get help right away.

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If we are attentive and if we listen, we can sometimes learn from others' experiences. A middle-aged professional from a small Midwestern town shared with me the following story.

She was a woman in her early 60s who had undergone major surgery, chemotherapy and radiation for a serious malignant condition. After her treatment, her energy and vitality were half of what they had been. She was restricted to working 20 hours a week, and even then some of that time was not particularly productive because of fatigue. As the weeks passed, however, she felt her energy return to almost normal. But then she made a serious miscalculation.

Rather than nurturing the healing process, she jumped on the corporate treadmill of morning and evening meetings, board activities, speaking commitments and social engagements. You can easily predict what happened. She had, in her words, a "total meltdown" and required medical support and rest to recover.

It is so very easy for us to become overcommitted and over engaged, until we use up our reserves and there is nothing left. So, how do we avoid this minefield? Some of the things that I have learned:

  • Know your priorities. Focus on what must be done rather than what would be nice to do.
  • Give yourself a break. Get enough sleep and get some time away from the daily demands.
  • Learn to say no. Have the confidence and, yes, the courage to say, "No thank you, I will not be able to do this."

What else would you add to this list?

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  • July 15, 2009 10:58 a.m.

    Listen to what your body is telling you. You not only need to get enough rest - but get rest when your body says that you need it. Take a short nap when you are tired.

    - Clare

  • July 4, 2009 6:46 a.m.

    It's a wise woman who knows her own limitations. I was not wise when I tried to keep up with social activities and obligations. One day I suffered a panic attack which I didn't recognize. I thought I was going to die. Fortunately, the hospital set up an excellent health team (cardiologist, internist and Cognitive Psychologist) to educate me. I'm a wiser woman now.

    - Roberta

  • July 1, 2009 1:17 a.m.

    Several years ago i had what i would call a melt down. i was working by my self away most of the poeple i knew; one time i was to go to another building and get some work. i knew what i was to pick but everyone i saw told me what i was to do. well wnen i got to where the work was. i said if one more person tells me what to do i'm going to well i didn't have to say what i would do because some told me what to do. i snapped and pushed her chair which had wheels across the room. i was not fired but susspened.i was afraid togo back to work. they sent me to get help because it was not the first time. its been almost 20 years and i have on all kinds of meds. my temper is some what under control. like cheese i have mellowed with age. but i am still being treated for depression.

    - jackie

  • June 30, 2009 5:04 p.m.

    What is the exact definition of a "meltdown"?

    - Nancy

  • June 30, 2009 8:24 a.m.

    Find time for oneself, even if it is difficult to break away from the demands others have on you. (It will improve the time you actually spend with others.) Exercise cardiovascularly at least 3 days a week. This can even be a swift walk. Find a meditation and mindfulness program if you suffer from chronic stress. Ideally, join a group with regular meetings.

    - david

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