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November 16, 2007 9:21 a.m.
'Letting go' a simple path to peace
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By Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

I am profoundly grateful for the spirited and thoughtful dialogue on the issue of Mother Teresa, stress, and dealing with some of life's challenges. This issue became especially relevant one evening last week.

I had the opportunity of addressing a marvelous group of clergy honoring a deceased minister for his contributions to the mind, body, spirit connection. I was asked to address the issue of stress and burnout among the clergy.

As with many professionals, the clergy are under enormous stress because of the demands of the parishioners and the need to be constantly "on call" in our current digital age. Upon review of the literature, I learned that many clergy in fact become the CEOs of multimillion dollar corporations with a volunteer staff numbering into the hundreds and many of them were not trained to deal with these sorts of responsibilities. Burnout can certainly be the result.

Now for the fascinating part; before the program began, a respected member of the clergy community offered an invocation. He specifically made the comment " ... letting go gives us peace ... " He then offered a simple gesture of his outstretched hands and his palms upward clearly indicating a sense of letting go of many of the entanglements that tend to wear us down.

A very simple phrase and a very simple gesture which really stays with me as our lives continue to be buffeted by forces and factors over which we have no control. But, we do have control over our attitude and how we face some of these struggles.

May this week bring peace and harmony to each of us.

Dr. Ed

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March 24, 2008 8:40 p.m.
At 22 years old three children 5, 3 & 2 I knew I had to make some changes my husband was a big drunk, verbally abusive & very controlling. This October will be 10 years I have made a wonderful life for myself and my children. I met a very kind man who has opened his heart and home to us. He is wonderful with the kids who are now 15, 13 & 12 but at everyday I am faced with something that triggers the past not by intention but my fears that I don't want the kids to be like their biological father. So many say just "let it go" you worry to much they are wonderful kids. I have been doing alot of natural healing which does help.Everyday is a step in the right direction but sometimes it just seems that no matter how much I let it go it is still there.
- Michelle
March 20, 2008 8:51 a.m.
I would like to know how to "let go" - since 6 years I have had two major ligament tears and bone inflammations that kept me out a work for 2 years at a time- I am finally back at work- and poof 4 months into it- I slipped on ice and torn an ankle ligament- I am only 40- and I cannot understand why I have these injuries- doctors just say they are accidents- but it is so disruptive to my life- as i cannot walk and do for months/years at a time- it is ruining my career- as I have to stay on myfeet all day long-- I used to be in great shape- and travelled the world- now every time I get well- something gets me- I want to "let go" of this pattern- cannot get why this happens to me? is it because I should let go- of my job? something of my life? anyone have any insight?
- patty
February 20, 2008 5:59 a.m.
It is wonderful to hear how people are striving to 'let go'. yes, we all have our burdens, each one different from the other, but isnt it wonderful that there is a God in heaven who neither sleeps nor slumbers? and He cares for us! Indeed! Let Go and Let God!!!!!
- Mbayi
January 17, 2008 2:12 p.m.
I have raised five children by myself.I lived with someone the father of my children for 18 years . He was alcholic and abusive. 2 off my chilren followed in his footsteps. My 3rd son would have but was in a accident and got Tramatic Brain Injury. I developed alcoholizm my self. I have been recoving for 14 years and for the first time in years I have a recovering family. I learned through counceling to let go of the past and learn from it. You cannot change it. Believe that a higher power is their for you. I have heard many times that if you have a positive attitude about life good things will come.
- Joan
January 4, 2008 4:23 a.m.
There is a God. Kneeling down, raising your cupped hands as if to say,"here God, I give up, I cannot cope, take my pain/frustration/depression/oppression/big stress outs, etc," does work. Yes we may have to do it several times a day/week, but this is so simple a thing. I was diagnosed with syjogren syndrome 4 years ago and I went from a very healthy woman to having all of the above sicknesses come into full force in the last 12 months. Regularly I am down on my knees holding up my cupped hands to God. Am I completely healed? NO, but I am in a much better frame of mind today and I am coping in this moment. One positive step at a time is what it is taking to overcome.
- Dorothy
January 3, 2008 1:07 p.m.
reading these posts are helpful, especially when dealing with BiPolar disease!! I have a daughter who has this, and is also alcoholic, so you can understand the frustration i have. I am confident that her meds will work if she stays sober, but lying and manipulation is part of this condition. I hate to even call is a disease, because I feel we need to help ourselves, and Ive dealt with this for 25 years. I fear the rest of the family will have no contact with her, once Im gone. prayers are appreciated, thanks for letting me vent.
- mary
December 5, 2007 2:13 p.m.
What a delight to have found these wonderful blogs and at a time when I need to hear what is being said. I have 2 grown children, both with mental disabilities and addictions, who can be very challenging. But I am learning to let go -- hard for this mother to do. I've come up with a solution for me. I turn each of them over to a higher power when I arise in the morning and when I turn in for the night. Do I take them back sometimes during the day, sure, but then I remember and turn them over again. Thanks to all who share their wisdom.
- Jinny
December 5, 2007 10:53 a.m.
"Don't live in the past, let it go", huh? Not easy for some of us as we have plenty of regrets to keep us anchored there. Where are those pesky instruction for "letting go" anyway? I've been searching for years to no avail but I won't quit yet.
- Susan
December 4, 2007 5:48 p.m.
I am trying not to live in the past but it is most difficult. I left my native San Francisco and moved to the desert and now to San Diego. I wake up every day and regret the move but it is impossible to go back to San Francisco for economic reasons and also I am well established with Kaiser here. Just have to work on not looking back every day. It is difficult. Bill
- Bill
November 30, 2007 8:01 a.m.
"Peace, be still" has been my stress mantra for 40 plus years.
- Ann
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