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  • Aug. 4, 2009

    Blog: The emotional aspects of quitting smoking

    By Jennifer A. Kern, M.S., C.T.T.S.

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At home the other night, I was washing my face when the scent of incense wafted past my nose, stirring up a cloud of memories. Over a few short seconds several images flashed behind my eyelids — my freshman college dorm room, the warm glow of candlelight, my old studio apartment in Paris, hours of quietude and reading, my dog curled up next to me, breathing softly, piano music in the background.

I immediately felt relaxed and peaceful, connected to my self. The scent of the incense I've been using during my private, relaxation time for more than a decade was, by itself, enough to quickly imbue a feeling of comfort with its familiarity and reliability. The same scent traveling with me for years now reminds me of my experiences, of my self.

It reminded me of the personal relationship smokers have with their cigarettes: over the years the cigarette becomes a constant, reliable companion — a source of soothing — a friend with a long history of memories — even a personal identity.

From my counseling experience, I believe that one of the most challenging aspects of stopping smoking is giving up that trustworthy source of comfort. The strong associations and emotional ties to the cigarette can have a gravitational pull that keeps smokers hooked (not to mention the nicotine).

The affinity for cigarettes is multi-layered; it's important to recognize how this relates to you as you move through the process of becoming smoke-free. Coping with the emotional aspects of relinquishing the cigarette is as essential as dealing with the chemical end of the addiction. Seek out support from a counselor like me, or other health professional, if you feel this is keeping you from reaching your goal to be a non-smoker.

How have you coped with change and loss in other areas of your life? What needs to happen in order for you to let the cigarette go and reclaim your true self?

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